Dear 14 year old Allie,
PUT DOWN THE EYELINER
Please I'm begging you. Drop it right now. Take that dark green, purple, black, and blue eye liner and throw it away. Seriously put the eyeliner down. You're going to look back in a couple of years and cringe at the sight of 5 pounds of makeup on your face. You don't need to load your face up with makeup to be beautiful. It's not cute and it doesn't make your eyes pop or make you look older in a good way. Stop it right this instance.
Stop obsessing over boys, or the lack thereof.
I know all of your friends have boyfriends and that they say they are in love, but they are actually not even close to knowing what true love is or experiencing the kind of love they were made for. I know you want to meet "the one" right now, and you want someone to cherish you. But having a boyfriend isn't going to solve all your problems. Having a boyfriend at 14 isn't as wonderful and magical as your friends make it out to be. (spoiler alert, your friends are going to be single again by the end of next week.) Having a boyfriend isn't going to make all your insecurities disappear. You can't expect someone to love you, if you can't even love yourself. So just take a deep breath and focus on falling in love with yourself. Be proud of who you are, and remember that you are a strong, independent, white girl, and you don't need no man.
**Besides, when you're 15, you're going to meet the love of your life. You don't know Him yet, but He knows you better than you do. He is going to change your life in more ways than you can imagine, and He is going to make you beyond happy. He is better than prince charming. . . He is the King of Kings. So just be patient!
You're not fat or ugly.
I know you're obsessed with the clothes you wear and the number on the scale. But I promise you that none of those things are going to make you feel whole or enough. Please know that whether you're a size 2 or 22 you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are enough, you are beautiful, and you are a string bean so stop worrying about your weight.
Have fun playing soccer.
Having a bad practice or game seems like the end of the world, but I promise it's not. You're not perfect and you're going to mess up every now and then. Remember that you are suppose to be having fun. That negative mindset of yours has got to go. Just relax and enjoy the game. Stop letting yourself be overcome by anxiety and spoiling your time on the pitch. Whenever you feel frustrated, just remember that little girl who dreamed of playing select soccer and being on a travel team. You are currently livin' the dream. Be grateful for the opportunity to play, and for the talent God has blessed you with.
Keep working hard at school
Don't give up, and keep doing what you're doing. When you get to college all of your hard work is going to pay off. While all your friends are scrambling because they don't know how to study, you'll be cruising through all your classes.
Enjoy being 14
High school feels like it's going to last forever, but it's actually going to fly by. Before you know it you'll be walking across the stage to accept your diploma, packing up your room, and saying good bye to all your family and friends. Enjoy where you are right now, and cherish all the memories you're making. Don't wish you were older, because honestly being a carefree kid is something you'll never get back. I know you want to have the same experiences some of your friends do. . . but just remember, rushing certain experiences doesn't make you older or more mature. So be 14. Do normal 14 year old things. Listen to Mom and Dad, because believe it or not, they do understand and know what is best for you.
You're going to be fine kiddo. Just you wait and see.